How to Choose a Cemetery
The loss of a loved one is one of the most difficult events a person will go through in life. The emotions involved are the most intense emotions people have expressed feeling. With choices to be made regarding which funeral home, monument, and cemetery your loved one should be memorialized in, it can all come pretty fast. Our recommendation is to slow down and take your time with your decision. Many things should be considered when choosing a cemetery for yourself, spouse/partner, family member, or close friend.
Location - First, consider the cemetery’s location to the remaining family members. It may be very important for them, so they can visit often. You may want to chose a cemetery where family members are already buried.
Verbal or Written Requests - Some people may have a specific reason for wanting to be buried in a certain place. Make an attempt to honor any written or verbal requests that may have been made prior to the death of your loved one. Often, cemeteries are chosen because of religious or secular beliefs. Many people want to be buried with members of their faith community.
Monument Type - Ask the cemetery director which type of monuments are allowed at the cemetery that you are considering. Some Cemeteries only allow “flat-markers”. Others allow all types of monuments and headstones. Many cemeteries have a maximum size headstone allowed. You need to know all this information before you commit to buying a plot there.
Appearance of Cemetery - Consider the overall appearance of the cemetery. Is it maintained properly? Remember to inquire about plantings. Many cemeteries do not allow planted flowers and only allow potted plants for a short amount of time after a special holiday. Understand that sometimes when restrictions are made about plantings, it is for the purpose of maintaining the grounds with more ease.
Costs - There are many costs involved in buying a cemetery plot. Has the cemetery director explained all costs, and put them in writing. Opening and closing a grave on a weekend may be an extra expense that you didn’t realize. Some cemeteries require a vault, or liner. They sell different grades of liners, so be prepared. Sometimes the location of the plot adds to the cost. Often a front row plot will be more. Some cemetery plots might be “doubles" but “stack” one on top of another, versus side by side plots. Municipal cemeteries may be less expensive than private cemeteries, but keep in mind that private cemeteries may have more resources to maintain their appearance.
By: Ryan Durkin. You can email ryan@headstonehub.com or fill out our contact form here if you have any questions about this blog post.